Change is dependent on our values, beliefs, attitudes, perceptions and expectations. It forces us outside our comfort zone, which can either direct us to experience growth, or apply resistance to limit the change.
Like many people, you might spend much of your time and energy resisting change because of the negative misconception that you associate with what change means. But in reality, when has the most growth occurred in your life - with change, or without it?
Your Subconscious Mind
The ultimate job of the subconscious mind is survival. Our mind likes to keep things as they are within the ideals of what we perceive as safe, over the untested and unproven. It’s the classic notion of ‘better the devil I know than the devil I don’t’.
Most of us are under the misperception ‘if I am able to contain myself within my comfort zone, I am able to maintain my sense of safety and security, and therefore prevent myself from feeling hurt’. This is true to some degree, however this belief system is manufactured from your past experiences and perceptions of insecurities and vulnerabilities, at the cost of you reaching your potential.
What if you could recognise that you are actually harming yourself more by resisting change? Let’s say in the past someone hurt you in some way, and through this experience you have been unable to forgive them and let it go. Have your hurt feelings, need to be right or your self-pride supported you in any way, or are they unconsciously acting out and causing more harm to you and to others?
Many of us fail to recognise how this relates to not only our mental health and emotional pain (such as anger, resentment and depression), but also how this manifests itself through physical signs and symptoms.